DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 27-year-old cisgender man and I’m in love with one of my closest female friends, but she doesn’t love me back. My friend and I have known each other for around a year and a h... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long time reader here. I am sure that you have received this letter many times before however I have long been stuck in a dry spell which I can’t get out of, partly because of my m... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been approached by another man in my local autistic self-advocacy group. He knows I’m a kinkster and wants me to help him enter the scene so he can find a kinky girlfriend.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 36-year-old man and I’ve been divorced for two months. My wife and I had been married for ten years and together since we were eighteen when we both had to agree that our rel... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve messaged before and been a different alias here. I’m uh, messaging again because I find myself in this existential break point of whether or not it’s even possible to find lov... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve recently found myself in a new situation, one I’m completely unprepared for.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 36-year-old trans woman who has been struggling hard with social anxiety, trauma from past bullying and depression. Lately I’d been making quite a lot of progress, including ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I(34M) am dating my girlfriend(33F) for 6 months now. I have been single most of my adult life, whereas she had a 10 year relationship with her ex but they lost their love around t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been attending martial arts classes for a couple months now – and I have a huge crush on the instructor. He’s funny, kind, patient, talented, and very handsome.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in my first romantic relationship. I knew going in that it was statistically unlikely to work out, so I tried not to get my hopes up, but I’m still crushed. My partner and I ha... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading advice after advice, letter after letter. And your advice boils down to “tough it up”. I have autism and none of this has been helpful.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ll get right to it. I’m 25, male, have never been romantically/physically involved with anybody, and have a crippling fear of rejection. This is all pretty run of the mill, but I... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I grew up pretty isolated from everyone. My parents emphasized that getting good grades should be my first priority when going to school, and as such, I was able to get a lot of sc... more