Dear Doctors: My question is about the holidays, and it's two parts. The to-do list just seems to get longer each year, and I'm already feeling stressed-out. Also, I just turned 44 and I don't recover from the eating and drinking like I used to. Do you have any realistic ideas other than “just say no”?

Dear Reader: The holidays can be too much of a good thing for many of us. Health surveys find that in the weeks between Thanksgiving and the start of the new year, people sleep less, eat and drink much more, and as the season plays out, feel increasingly bad about all of it. Add in the increasing pressure to put together the perfect holiday -- think of it as the Instagram effect -- and a time of year when we seek warmth and community can feel more like an endurance test.

Rather than completely opting out of the holidays, try a gentle edit. Choose a few moments that bring genuine pleasure -- maybe a twilight walk, trying a new cookie recipe or watching a Hallmark movie with your phone turned off. Schedule these in, one or two per week, just as you would any social obligation. Small pauses can be an antidote to the relentless pace of the season and restore your sense of enjoyment. They can also give you a second wind to face your holiday obligations and the breathing room to enjoy them.

Eating and drinking are a big part of this time of year, and it's important to have a plan. Last week, we looked at food strategies. Now let’s focus on drinking. In a season of open bars and “just one more” rounds, be strategic. Create a template for how you will navigate the alcohol at any gathering. The buzzy enjoyment of a cocktail or glass of wine comes with a physical price. It disrupts sleep, your immune system takes a hit, your liver works overtime and blood sugar takes big swings. This can leave you feeling tired and irritable and, as research has shown, even more vulnerable to junk food cravings the next day.

Set a drinking limit before each event, including the option to not drink at all. When you do plan to indulge, have something in your stomach first. Start with at least a snack before the event. Then double down by making the protein and high-fiber foods your first stop. They will help stabilize blood sugar, keep you feeling full and slow the effects of alcohol. You can also start with something nonalcoholic to quench thirst. When you do switch to adult beverages, track not just how many, but also portion size. If you’re having more than one drink, you can alternate with something nonalcoholic.

Pacing yourself with food, drink and your commitments is practicing preventive medicine in real time. You're setting the stage for better sleep, steadier mood and the energy to enjoy the things you love about this season.

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Hello again, dear readers! Welcome to a bonus letters column. This time, we're focusing on two questions, one important and one just plain interesting, so let's dive in.

-- A reader from San Diego is worried about the upcoming cold and flu season. He echoes the concerns of many people making a post-pandemic return to the office. “During the two years we were working from home, I never got sick once,” he wrote. “We were back for just a month when a co-worker came in with the flu and spread it to a bunch of us. Can you please talk about why you should stay home when you're sick?”

Just a moment of contact with the flu virus can lead to a full-blown infection. The droplets released in a cough or sneeze from an infected person can hang in the air for a surprisingly long time. Large droplets may last a minute or two, while smaller ones -- still carrying the virus -- can stay suspended for hours. You can either breathe these in, or they may settle on commonly touched surfaces such as desks, keyboards, doorknobs or coffeepots. This is especially true in poorly ventilated indoor spaces.

A case of the flu strains the heart and lungs, worsens asthma and, for older adults or immunocompromised people, can escalate to pneumonia. Even healthy young adults can develop inflammation and lingering fatigue. All of this makes the first rule of flu etiquette simple: Stay home. When you do return to your routine, take steps to prevent spreading any lingering virus particles -- wear a mask, wash your hands often, dispose of used tissues carefully and hold off on hugs or kisses.

-- We also heard from a reader in New Hampshire asking about the phenomenon known as brain freeze. “My 5-year-old son took a big bite of his Popsicle, grabbed his head and burst out crying,” she wrote. “His first brain freeze. If the cold food is in your mouth, why does it make your forehead ache?”

Brain freeze, also known as an ice cream headache, is a fascinating phenomenon. Swift and surprisingly painful, it's triggered when something very cold rapidly chills the roof of your mouth. Ice cream is the classic culprit, but Popsicles, slushies, smoothies, frozen fruit or even a gulp of cold soda can bring the pain.

The reason lies in simple physics. The sudden chill causes blood vessels in the palate to constrict and then quickly dilate. This effect activates pain receptors that communicate through the trigeminal nerve, the conduit for facial pain. When the “ouch!” message reaches the brain, it’s misread as coming from the forehead or behind the eyes. Even though the source is in the palate, the brain tells a story about forehead pain. Happily, brain freeze is short-lived. You can speed relief by warming the roof of your mouth with your tongue, or just approach that chilly treat with a bit more caution.

Thank you to everyone who took the time to write. We love hearing from you. We will be back soon with more of your thoughts and questions in our regular monthly letters column.

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Dear Doctors: My mom is 61. She started having hip pain and figured it meant a hip replacement surgery at some point in the future. When she saw her doctor, the tests showed osteonecrosis, and the surgery had to happen right away. What causes osteonecrosis, and what happens if you don't treat it?

Dear Reader: Osteonecrosis is a degenerative condition in which bone tissue begins to die. Also known as avascular necrosis, it happens because of reduced or fully interrupted blood supply to the bone. We can glean clues about the condition from its name. “Osteo” means bone and “necrosis” means death, both from ancient Greek. The suffix “osis” indicates an abnormal condition. And the word “avascular,” which derives from Latin, refers to a loss of blood vessels. So, bone death due to a lack of blood flow.

To understand osteonecrosis, we should begin with how healthy bone normally functions. Bones may appear solid and unchanging, but they are made of living tissue. Bone tissue is constantly being removed and replaced in a complex balancing act known as remodeling. The various cells involved need a steady blood supply to deliver oxygen and nutrients and to carry away waste. When something interrupts the blood flow, the cells involved in remodeling can no longer do their work. This leads to tissue death and, over time, the collapse of the bone.

Almost any bone in the body is vulnerable to osteonecrosis. Due to how blood supplies route, certain bones are at increased risk. This includes the femur, the long thigh bone. The top of the bone that fits into the hip socket is known as the femoral head. It has a delicate network of tiny arteries and capillaries that branch off from the femoral artery. A break, a dislocation or even a small injury can impede the flow of blood to the bone. Additional causes of the condition include blockage from fat particles, prolonged corticosteroid use or damage from heavy drinking. Any of these can starve the bone tissue of oxygen and put it at risk of dying.

The pain your mother experienced is the primary symptom of osteonecrosis. As the condition progresses, damage within the bone begins to limit the person's range of motion. If left untreated, the area of necrosis expands and the tiny channels that deliver blood and nutrients to the bone cells begin to collapse. The outer surface of the femoral head also weakens. This can begin to erode the smooth cartilage that lines the socket of the hip joint. This is where the femoral head sits and can lead to arthritis.

Early treatment for the condition focuses on restoring blood flow and preserving the joint. If the femoral head has collapsed or arthritis has developed, total hip replacement is often the most effective solution. In most cases, hip replacement surgery fully resolves the pain and restores mobility. With physical therapy, the person is usually able to resume normal daily activities.

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